Tips on How to Coparent Peacefully

Tips on How to Coparent Peacefully

Former spouses do not necessarily enjoy seeing one another, but for the sake of the children, they must be able to coordinate their schedules. Everyone thinks about the children’s emotions when their parents are going through a divorce. Who is thinking of the parents?

Major changes in the lives of both parents will cause emotional instability, which will lead to short tempers, brewing animosity, and potential legal issues down the line. Ideally, both parents would stick to the visitation schedule, ensure the best interests of the children, and everyone can move forward with their lives. In reality, schedules change, finances fluctuate, and not everyone is going to be on the same page. Managing disputes, therefore, prevents serious disruption to the children’s lives and gives parents one less thing to worry about.

Divorce Coaches

Hiring a divorce coach can help you manage the range of emotions you will feel while your divorce is being processed by the court. It can also help you prevent problems that may occur down the line. Chances are good that a small scheduling matter can turn into an argument about how one or the other spouse never kept their promises was never around for the children. A divorce coach would tell you to get out in front of the issue early. Visitation schedules can be changed. Poor communication, on the other hand, leaves scars. Ultimately, these scars make communication harder. Divorce coaches help individuals process all of the changes in their lives and remember what their priorities are. For parents, it is often necessary to keep everything in perspective and not get sucked into the animosity.

Bicker in Private

The time for bickering is not when the children are being exchanged. You do not want to bicker in front of the kids. When handing off children to the other parent, you want the process to be as quick and perfunctory as humanly possible. If you cannot look at your ex, then focus on the children. Children will pick up on the animosity even if they are not consciously aware of it. It can cause them anxiety down the road. 

Effective Co-Parenting Checklist

How do you know that your co-parenting is effective? Well, when potential problems occur, you are already out in front of them. Scheduling problem? You have already spoken to the ex, and arrangements have been made concerning the children. 

Can you go to plays and sporting events together without conflict? If so, chances are good that your co-parenting arrangement is proving effective. 

Lastly, if your children do not feel pressured to take your side or your co-parent’s side in matters related to your divorce, then you have avoided placing them in an emotional power struggle that can only harm them. 

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Andrea Heckman represents the interests of Cook County couples looking to divorce. Call now to discuss your future goals in more detail, and we can begin preparing your petition today.